[backport]fix: Gateway Parameter Priority and Updating

[reaver-flomesh]

Description:

Testing done:

Affected area:

Functional Area
New Functionality	[ ]
CI System	[ ]
CLI Tool	[ ]
Certificate Management	[ ]
Control Plane	[ ]
Demo	[ ]
Documentation	[ ]
Egress	[ ]
Ingress	[ ]
Install	[ ]
Networking	[ ]
Observability	[ ]
Performance	[ ]
SMI Policy	[ ]
Security	[ ]
Sidecar Injection	[ ]
Tests	[ ]
Upgrade	[ ]
Other	[ ]

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1. Does this change contain code from or inspired by another project?

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2. Is this a breaking change?

3. Has documentation corresponding to this change been updated in the fsm-docs repo (if applicable)?

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