[CH] Build optimization

[zhanglistar]

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Now, two problems:

1. building time long to 20mins,
2. libch.so size still big, about 300MB after strip and not compiling some useless third party libraries.

The reason is that clickhouse is first builded for standalone server not a library like velox, also this project have the same problems, chdb-io/chdb#53.

Later, we may do some flags on clickhouse code to easily not compile some useless code, like mergetree* and contribute back to upstream.

Here is the ninjatracing result, details in attach file.

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[zhanglistar]

cmake_build_trace_detailed.txt